The 3 Reasons Why You Should Postpone Your Honeymoon

Honeymoons & Destination Weddings, Planning Tips
Reasons to Postpone the Honeymoon

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Are you going to leave for your honeymoon the day after your wedding? Some couples elect to stay wherever they got married for a couple of days after their weddings, so they can visit with out-of-town friends and family they rarely get to see. Others only have limited vacation time and must depart as soon as reasonably possible.

It's perfectly okay to postpone your honeymoon, or go on a "mini-moon" for a few days after you tie the knot, and take a longer trip later on. In fact, brides and grooms who delay their honeymoons never say they regret it, but frequently say they think they enjoyed it far more than they would have right after the stress of a whole big wedding.

Why is a delayed honeymoon better? Most of my brides and grooms cite the following three reasons:

1. You will be exhausted and cranky when travelling right after all the stress and excitement of the actual wedding.
Any delays or interruptions to your itinerary will make you crazy, even if you're an experienced traveler. You're going to feel like you're in a race to get to your honeymoon destination, and as tired as you are, you likely won't get any decent rest until you have arrived at your accommodations and seen that everything is in order. When you do crash, you will crash hard. Don't pre-schedule any fancy excursions for the first couple of days you're there. The farther you travelled, the more recovery time you're going to need to be able to enjoy your trip.

2. You won't be able to fully relax.
While you probably intend to "go dark" on social media while you're on your honeymoon, it's very hard to do that when all of your friends and family are madly posting your wedding photos on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. You're dying to see the pics — good and bad — and you cannot help commenting. Unless your new spouse is as intrigued as you are, this could lead to annoyance when you're paying too much attention to your phone. Delayed honeymoons make it much easier to turn it all off, and look forward to posting your own pictures when you return to the real world.

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3. Budget is almost always an issue for honeymooners who travel immediately after a wedding.
Especially if the bride and groom were paying most of the wedding tab. We have this wild expectation that we shouldn't have to look at price tags on our honeymoons — that we should have whatever we want and enjoy it — and that can lead to real sticker shock when the final hotel bill comes under the door. You'll want to be able to afford to snorkel a famous reef, learn to scuba dive, or ski and snowmobile to your hearts content, depending on where you're honeymooning. Postponing the honeymoon reduces wedding stress because it's one less thing you're saving up to pay for at the same time.

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events, a full-service traditional and destination wedding planning company and Do-It-Yourself wedding planning consulting service for DIY brides and grooms based in the Washington, DC area. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show "Wedding Island," about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques. Sandy's book "How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional," will be released on March 1st, but is available online for pre-orders now where books are sold.

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