The 3 Big-Picture Talks You Need to Have Before You Start Wedding Planning

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The day has finally come and it's time for you to start wedding planning! Whether you've been planning your wedding since you were a little kid or you just opened your first-ever Pinterest account, it's time to sit down with your fiancé and start figuring out what kind of wedding you want. And before you make any decisions, you and your fiancé need to get on the same page. Here, three convos to consider while you're still in post-proposal bliss:

The Dream-Wedding Talk
Time to compare wedding fantasies! Set aside a weekend morning to discuss your ideal vibe, size, style, and time of year. Go crazy and don't censor yourself. Maybe you're dreaming of an intimate wine-country fête in the fall or a summertime blowout with 400 friends and family on the beach. Look for common ground, and if you want different things, dig deeper, says Elana Katz, a New York City-based couples' counselor: "Ask him to tell you more about why his ideas are so important to him." Understanding the meaning behind them could get you on board— or at least help you find a compromise

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The Priorities Talk
Now that you have a vision, decide which details you value most. This day is all about the two of you so if you can figure out together what is most important it'll make planning decisions so much easier down the road. Is it a band that will keep your guests dancing all night? A killer menu to satisfy your foodie friends? An after-party catered by your favorite taco truck? Keep these things in mind when setting a budget and picking a venue.

The Money Talk
You can't plan a thing until you know your bottom line, and "your starting point should be what you and your fiancé can afford, not how much all of the things you want will cost," says Alexa von Tobel, founder of LearnVest and author of Financially Fearless. Add up the following: how much cash you have and how much of it you want to spend, what can you save before the big day, and how much your parents will contribute. (For tips on how to have that tricky conversation, read up on our expert advice.) "Once you have a number, deduct 20 percent to account for unexpected extras and gratuities," von Tobel advises. "Better to give yourself some wiggle room than to find yourself in debt down the road."

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