Do I Have to Invite Older Family Members to the Bachelorette Party?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties
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It's your last hurrah as a single gal, and everyone wants to help you celebrate. One thing that might determine whether you're dancing on tables in Vegas or being pampered at the spa? The guest list. Do older family members, like the mother of the bride, the mother of the groom, or any aunts, have to be invited to the bachelorette party? Here's what our experts have to say about a multi-generational bachelorette party.

The short answer is no, older family members do not have to receive an invite. This event is more of a final Girls' Night Out than a family affair, so you're not in the wrong by putting just your friends on the guest list. However, if you do decide to include other people in the festivities, make sure it's something you think they'll enjoy. Sure, your mom might be your partner in crime, but will she be having a blast or feel uncomfortable while you're having a wild night in a sash and tiara? If you're planning something more low-key, she might feel right at home (and you can let her know that she's welcome to either join you or head home if you're planning on hitting the bars after dinner).

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When it comes to your future spouse's mom, it depends on your relationship. If the two of you are super close and you know she'd get along great with your friends, she would probably love to be included alongside your mom to a more relaxed celebration. The same goes for any other female family members who might want to come along. Just make sure no one feels left out (say, if your mom has three sisters and you only invite one). If you can't figure out where to draw the line, it's better to keep the guest list to a minimum and either invite just your mom, your mom and your future mother-in-law, or only your friends.

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