How to Compromise When You Don't Want A Wedding Cake But Your Parents Do

Cakes, Etiquette

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The notion of a traditional fondant wedding cake with extravagant, frosted flowers may be considered a matrimonial tradition, but the sugary confection isn't for every couple. So what is a bride to do when her parents crave a cake? Our etiquette experts weigh in on striking a confection compromise.

The sky is the limit in terms of wedding dessert options, and there are infinite possibilities to satisfy parental cake cravings while catering to your own dessert whims. First, look into the option of a miniature cake. You can order a petite three-tiered wedding cake or a simple, single-tier cake for your parents and still indulge in the dessert — or desserts — of your choice. Check with your bakery to examine the company's sizing options for cakes. Many bakeries will offer couples a range of cake heights and widths to ensure their clients' satisfaction, from towering confections to petite treats.

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Your parents might be just as pleased with a multi-tiered cupcake display arranged on a cake stand. You can also consider a dessert table complete with an array of small cakes, pies, macaroons, and brownies. Alternatively, a dessert bar can offer you and your guests a myriad of mouthwatering treats while including a cake in the mix. Finally, if you are serving a multi-course dinner, you might think about offering a dessert course of gelato, pie, or donuts in addition to the traditional cake course. Your gastronomical choices should please you and your family, so be sure to make your own tastes a priority while simultaneously pleasing your parents.

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