What to Do If Your Sister Calls Dibs on a Family Heirloom for Her Wedding

Sister Wants to Wear the Same Family Heirloom

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No one is happier for a bride regarding news of her impending nuptials than her family, but sibling rivalry can pose a potential conflict. So what is a bride to do when her sister declares dibs on a beloved family heirloom? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

It's an unfortunate truth of marriage that family squabbles occasionally cast a shadow over the planning process, especially when a sibling has her say. As the bride, you shouldn't feel remorseful over wearing a family heirloom on your big day. However, there is no rule that states only one bride can sport a cherished antique on her wedding day. If you're open to the idea, suggest to your sister that she may wear the heirloom on her wedding day after you sport the piece on the day of your nuptials. In all likelihood, the practice could develop into a custom enjoyed by future generations who will appreciate that multiple family members before them wore the item.

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If your sister still isn't pleased by the idea of sharing, try appealing to her sense of empathy by explaining why you wish to wear the heirloom on your wedding day, and how important to your nuptial experience the item is. With any luck, your sister will understand your logic and give you her blessing.

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