Do You Have to Host a Brunch the Day After the Wedding?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties
Do You Have to Host a Post-Wedding Brunch

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The great debate continues: to host a post-wedding brunch, or to skip the morning-after send-off tradition? While it's certainly not expected, a small celebration the day after the wedding can be a nice way to cap off the weekend and toast the bride and groom one last time. On the other hand, do you really feel like hosting (and paying for) yet another event? Our experts weigh in on the pros and cons of a post-wedding brunch, and whether or not it's right for you.

We get it: You've just finished hosting the biggest party of your life, and the thought of dragging yourself out of bed early the day after your wedding to be a smiling hostess at yet another get-together is too much to bear. Lucky for you, the short answer is no, you are not obligated to host a post-wedding brunch the next morning. But before you cross this one off your to-do list, consider this short list of loopholes.

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The post-wedding brunch is an opportunity for guests to give the happy couple one last hug and a honeymoon sendoff. People tend to gather the morning after a wedding anyways (and by people, we mean out-of-town relatives, not your crew of bridesmaids and groomsmen who will likely shoot you a "safe flight" text later in the afternoon), and by designating a time and place, you won't have to be fielding a slew of phone calls wishing you well. If you don't want to host a formal brunch, perhaps someone else does. Check with your parents to see if they would like to host the family for an in-suite party with light breakfast. After you make your appearance, they then have an opportunity to spend the morning chatting with extended relatives and reliving all the happy moments from the wedding.

Or, invite people to see you off en route to the honeymoon and keep it casual with coffee and croissants within a 30-minute time frame. Choose a neutral space in the hotel, like a library or alcove in the lobby. This way, you can hug grandma and thank everyone for coming before whisking off to the airport. It's your one last moment to be the beaming bride, so why not soak it in just a bit more?

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