What Should You Do if No One Has Planned Your Bridal Shower Yet?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties

You're in the final countdown to your big day, and everything from your gown to your groom is a flawless ode to your lifelong commitment — except your bridal shower. Your wedding may be completely under control, but what happens when the beautiful bridal shower you imagined is nowhere to be found? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

The element of surprise is a long-standing tradition in throwing a bridal shower; after all, what could be better than an unexpected night of debauchery or relaxation in the midst of the stressful wedding planning process? Your maid of honor and closest friends have likely been discreetly planning an affair to remember for months in hopes that your astonishment will add to the joy of the big reveal. If you've fielded any curious questions about your co-workers and old acquaintances, signature drink, or schedule, your friends may have been probing for clues on creating a soiree you'll adore. In addition, think about how your friends have treated you in the past. If they've proved attentive and thoughtful over the course of your friendship, you can simply sit back have faith in the divine evening to come. However, if you're truly concerned about the state of your shower (or lack thereof), test the water by dropping a few subtle hints.

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If a co-worker recently married and you were regaled with stories of her bachelorette party, slip in a mention of the party to your maid of honor. Likewise, discuss your ideal party whether it includes dancing 'til dawn or a series of spa treatments, and explain how much you're looking forward to your shower. In all probability, your friends are keeping you in the dark to enhance your experience, so enjoy your engagement and let them take the reins!

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