Who Do We Have to Send Announcements to If We Decide to Elope?

Etiquette, Planning Tips

Even if you choose to forgo the fuss of planning a regular wedding, you'll probably still want to share the happy news with friends and family. Our experts help you start brainstorming your announcement list.

Although you skipped the traditional wedding in favor of an intimate ceremony for two, now you find yourself at an awkward crossroads of wanting to tell people you're married without having to answer a hundred questions about why they weren't invited. By sending out elopement announcements, you can control how people hear the news, and if you send them sooner rather than later, no one's feelings will be hurt for missing the opportunity to share in this happy time. That way, when you run into an old friend at the gym, the exchange will be one of excitement rather than trying to sneak in the phrase "Hey, I got hitched!" within a five-minute conversation.

See More: How to Break It to Your Parents That You're Eloping

The easiest place to start is as though you're drafting a guest list. After friends and family, and even the obligatory extended relatives, think about the important people in your life who would want to celebrate this next chapter. Write down every name that comes to mind and then go over the list with your spouse and possibly both your parents until little by little, after multiple drafts, you find yourself with a list that suits you. And just because it's an announcement rather than an invitation doesn't mean you can't keep this intimate, so disregard the desire to send out an all-contacts email or post a Facebook message. In the long run, you'll be thankful you put in the effort to create a list of recipients, and whether the number is large or small, your mind will rest easy knowing you thoughtfully chose with whom you wanted to share the news.

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