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You adore your fiancé, and his friends are really cool too. What's not cool though is waking up to them passed out on your couch every freaking weekend. It's like you're living in a frat house with no privacy, much less any alone time with the man you're about to marry. The bromance is starting to affect your romance, and frankly you're fed up. So what's a girl to do? We consulted love coach Heather Allison to get her professional opinion.
If this is something that seriously irks you, first things first, you're going to want to set some boundaries. That doesn't mean you get to banish the dudes from ever kicking it at the house (remember: he lives there too, and you both have a right to entertain), but Allison does encourage you to speak up, sooner rather than later. She recommends saying something like:
"Babe, I love that you have such strong friendships [and make sure you mean that], however, I'm feeling a little overwhelmed about how often they're at the house. I want this to feel like my sanctuary sometimes. What do you think?'"
Chances are, he'll hear your needs loud and clear and make adjustments accordingly, adjustments that make you both feel good. "You'll get a bit more peace as a result (and less beer cans laying around), plus you'll be the coolest wife ever because you genuinely want everyone to win."
Since he obviously won't be breaking up with his boys completely and absolutely shouldn't be expected to, Allison urges you to do something fulfilling for yourself when he's enjoying guy time. Plan a girl's night out, schedule a massage with your bestie or explore and find a new coffee shop nearby to bury your head in a book. "Whatever feeds your soul or feels a bit indulgent and gives you some much-needed recharging." Turn his guy hangs into moments that are delicious for you, and pretty soon she says you'll actually be looking forward to them coming over. Ah, now wouldn't that be a nice change?