What to Do When Your Brother Wants His Band to Perform at Your Wedding — But You Don't

Brothers Band Wants to Play at Wedding

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Including family members in your wedding is integral to hosting a memorable fete, especially when loved ones volunteer their talents to enhance the event. However, not all family contributions are welcome on the big day. So what is a bride to do when her brother offers his band for reception entertainment against her wishes? Our etiquette experts weigh in on tactfully turning down a sibling's unwanted offer.

The best solution to your issue is finding a resolution that neither hurts your brother nor ruins your reception with a performance that's not to your taste. In order to compromise with your brother, you can ask if he would be interested in performing one song with his band in lieu of a full set. One song will appease your brother without overtaking your wedding. If you feel strongly against your brother's band, propose that he write and perform a song with your hired wedding band. With professional backup, even a slightly unsavory song will be more palatable.

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In the case that your truly cannot stand the sound of your brother's band, gently express to your brother that there isn't an optimal place for his group to include their music. Should your brother express disappointment over your decision, you might consider allowing the band to play at your reception. Regardless of which solution you choose, make sure that your brother understands that you appreciate his offer and the thoughtfulness it signifies.

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