We Want a Simple Courthouse Ceremony, But Our Parents Object. What Can We Do to Appease Them?

Etiquette, Moms

Modern weddings rarely adhere to the traditional formula of a church ceremony followed by a 200-person reception, and city hall ceremonies are on the upswing for pragmatic couples. But what is a bride to do when her parents don't approve of courthouse "I do?" Our etiquette experts weigh in on appeasing parents who aren't on board with a city hall ceremony.

Before you kiss your simple courthouse ceremony goodbye, breach the topic of a compromise with your parents. A streamlined, no-fuss courthouse wedding may appeal to you and your hubby, but a civil ceremony also deprives your family of the joy they would feel at beholding the union. While their insistence on a more traditional celebration might feel intrusive, their effort is simply an act of love that demonstrates their desire to be included. First, consider hosting a celebratory reception for close friends and family after your city hall vows. A small but festive fete will pacify your parents and keep your actual ceremony intimate. Even a simple Sunday brunch at your favorite eatery with 10 or 15 loved ones will serve to mark the momentous occasion.

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If you aren't in love with the notion of a reception, you might consider either asking your parents to witness your city hall ceremony, or think of hosting an additional ceremony for your family. Repeating your vows in front of friends and family can lend the proceedings warmth that a civil ceremony simply lacks, while allowing you to satisfy your craving for a private ceremony.

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