Is Any Music Too Inappropriate to Play At a Wedding?


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Coming up with your wedding playlist can be one of most enjoyable and low-pressure moments in the wedding-planning process — especially for musically-inclined couples. But selecting the best beats for the wedding requires more selectivity than curating a playlist for cocktail party with your closest friends. Songs with questionable lyrics may be excellent for a night on the town, but your wedding guests might not be the most receptive crowd. Our etiquette experts weigh in on the difficult question of crafting a wedding-appropriate playlist.

Your favorite tunes may be chock-full of explicit content, but before you create a nightlclub-worthy playlist, you need to consider a few important factors. First, think of your wedding guests. If you have chosen to include young children, elderly relatives, or particularly conservative friends in your celebration, you might want to save the more R-rated beats for another occasion. Guests with children under the age of five most likely won't want to expose their youngster to graphic content, and relatives of a different generation may not find the contemporary music appealing. Since you want your guests to enjoy the big day just as much as you do, selecting a family-friendly lineup of songs is probably your best bet.

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Also consider the tone of the songs you're choosing. Your favorite dance music might not be the best for celebrating friendship and love. If any of your tunes are filled with profanities and violent messages, or even boats a negative perspective on love, they might be better for your wedding's after party. If inappropriate songs are a particular concern, ask your DJ to rule out particularly offensive tunes and opt for more upbeat songs perfect for a joyful occasion.

Remember: Just because you have to veer towards PG, doesn't mean you can't play your favorite songs on the radio. Most of the time, a single will have a "clean" version, as long as you go for that you — and grandma — can get down on the dance floor.

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