Calling All Control Freaks: How to Let Vendors Help You With Your Wedding

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Type-A's get things done. But they also have a teeny-tiny problem letting anyone else touch their perfectionist plans. When it comes weddings, however, there is simply too much to tackle for any one person, even a control-happy Type-A, and even the most take-charge brides have to learn to let others pitch in. So if you're letting your control-freak flag fly and need to rein yourself in, here's how.

1. Choose vendors whose work you admire and work ethic you trust.
Says Ashley Smith, owner of Buzzworthy Events in San Francisco, "If their work speaks strongly enough to you, then you should feel confident they can perform on a level that is professional and will help you relinquish that control." When you're tempted to step in, remind yourself that "allowing them do their job will produce the best results," says Smith. "Meddling in the process too much can muddy up the results or your vision."

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2. Conduct reference checks to make yourself more comfortable.
If you know you're hiring vendors with the experience, ability and professionalism to take your vision and make it a reality, you'll have an easier time trusting their expertise. "You can ask other vendors with whom they've worked or previous clients and chat about their process," says Smith. "Check out their reviews where ever you can find them. Don't solely rely on the vendor's own website. And do your homework to make sure that the work on their websites are actual weddings and not just photo shoots."

3. Establish trustworthy relationships with your vendors.
Get to know them early on so that as the clock ticks closer to your wedding day, you can limit your meetings with them. "I believe that scheduling a few, larger meetings in advance gives both parties the opportunity to prepare and achieve more," Smith says. "Constantly emailing, calling, or texting a vendor leaves room for some information to get lost in the fray. Instead, prepare for larger meetings and cover all the bases in them."

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