How to Bond With Your Future Mother-in-Law

How to Bond with Your Mother-in-Law

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Conversations with your future mother-in-law full of awkward silence? It's not just the wedding day you've got to get through — you've got a lifetime ahead with this woman so getting to know her is a must. But hanging with your MIL-to-be doesn't need to be a drag when there's so much girl-fun to be had! Whether you want a second mom to call in times of crisis or just peace at the rehearsal dinner, it's definitely time to get started with an old-fashioned bonding sesh.

Take her to lunch.
Pick her favorite restaurant or favorite cuisine — if she's at all apprehensive about going out with you, this will help her relax. Chat about the menu and ask her for recommendations. To let her get to know you better, bring a few photos of yourself through the years that show highlights of your life (nothing racy). For her to know your present, she's got to understand your past.

Make dinner for her at your place.
This one puts you on familiar territory. Ask your fiancé about her food preferences and any allergies she may have, and get cooking. You don't know your way around a stove? No worries — serving takeout food is fine. Set a pretty table with your nicest dishes and linens and even cheeseburgers will look elegant.

Treat her to a pedicure.
Talk about being on equal footing! There's nothing more relaxing than sitting side-by-side in a salon while getting your feet pampered. Forget about reading a magazine or texting friends and spend the time chatting with her.

Walk around her favorite museum together.
This is another way to show you've done your homework. Ask her to head to the galleries she loves the most; if the museum is a favorite of yours too, so much the better — you have something in common to talk about!

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Go shoe shopping.
Trying on sandals and stilettos will create an insta-girl bond. And you don't have to buy anything.

Cook your fiancé's favorite recipes together.
You're both interested in his well-being, aren't you? Knowing you want to get that marinara sauce just right will mean the world to her.

Go hiking.
There's something about being surrounded by nature that makes people more relaxed. And if you're relaxed, you'll both open up, hopefully marking the beginning of a long and loving relationship.

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