What to Do When You and Your Bridesmaids Disagree on Their Dresses

Bridesmaids, Etiquette

Although any bridal entourage should function more like a democracy than a tyranny, a bride has the power to make executive decisions — especially in matters when her 'maids disagree. But what is a bride to do when she's not in sync with her bridesmaids' dress selections? Our etiquette experts weigh in on the tricky business of selecting bridesmaid dresses.

Before instigating an outright war with your bridesmaids, take their perspectives into account. If there is a consensus amongst your bridesmaids that the chosen dress is atrocious, there may be some validity to the claim. If that's the case, it might be a good idea to go for a frock that your 'maids can agree on to avoid any further dress-related drama. Bridesmaid dress website Weddington Way also provides an option for brides and their wedding party to vote on favorite styles via poll, which allows each 'maid to voice her opinion in pursuit of the perfect dress. Alternatively, you can prescribe a single bridesmaid dress hue for your party while allowing each member of the entourage to sport a distinct style that showcases her personality. Twobirds offers just such a service, outfitting bridal parties in a customizable poly/jersey blend frock that can be tied and knotted in a myriad of ways.

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If you suspect that your bridesmaids are not easy to please, you can put your foot down. Some bridesmaids will only be truly satisfied if they select their own ensemble, or wish to get more attention through outbursts. A bride's wedding day should revolve around her own happiness, not that of a difficult entourage. If the situation escalates, firmly remind your bridesmaids that they need only sport their dresses for a day, and that you would appreciate their support. If any of your bridesmaids continue to protest, you may need to rethink your wedding party, not your dress selection.

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