Writers Give Their Best Tips For Beating Writer's Block With Your Vows

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Wedding professionals can solve all kinds of problems, from finding extra seats for those pesky guests who didn't RSVP to enticing even the stodgiest couples to do the Hokey Pokey on the dance floor. But when it comes to penning your wedding vows and fighting a serious case of writer's block, you need a whole different kind of professional — you need a writer. So to get the ink flowing, we've gathered five who've shared their top tips for beating writer's block.

"Write first thing in the morning. You want a fresh mind. Don't check your email, or let the pressures of the rest of your day distract you before you start. Write in an environment that does not pull you back into the distractions or task-oriented details of your day-to-day communications. Honor the nature of this particular writing assignment." — Sarah Maraniss Vander Schaaff, freelance journalist

"Spend time in your creative zone of genius. I'm a visionary, so for me that could be painting, creating a vision board, or going to an Abraham-Hicks conference — essentially engaging in things that open my mind but aren't directly tied to writing. Couples could do activities that bring out the best in both of them, then describe that energy they feel when they're doing what ever that is together." — Danielle Sabrina, online reporter and columnist

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"To overcome writers block, one must write, and write, and write. A great writer writes through such blocks, no matter the quality. With wedding vows, there's a lot of pressure to say just the right thing at just the right moment. However, as someone who writes dozens and dozens of drafts, I know the truth of the matter: First drafts are meaningless. Write whatever it is that exemplifies your abounding adoration. Write from the heart, and write a lot. Then, when all is said and done, go back and choose what stands out and what just seems embarrassing. Give yourself the option to cut down. It's always better to have too much." — Austin Lugo, fiction writer and essayist

"A unique way to beat writer's block is to look though your social media profiles. This helps you relive your memories and find new angles to look at things. To write your vows, look though your old texts, e-mails, pictures, Facebook messages, and more. This will help you relive memories with your significant other and motivate you to write your wedding vows." — P. Wish, novelist

"When tongue-tied as to the perfect dialog between characters, I put down my pen and pick up my phone and go for a walk or drive. Using the voice recorder, I step into the shoes of the character and speak from the heart as if I were having a real conversation. By hearing it first, I can often listen to the recording and hear the feeling expressed in a down to earth, more emotional way. You can use this trick to write your vows, too. By getting away from writing on paper and recording a stream of consciousness thought onto your phone, you can forget fancy words and be authentic. The honest, real life words they use to convey their love will mean more than writing it in a fancy way." — Carrie Aulenbacher, contemporary romance writer

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