What to Do When Your Fiancé Has Checked Out of the Wedding-Planning Process

Etiquette, Planning Tips
Groom Checked Out of Wedding

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Wedding-planning fatigue is a very real conundrum many couples face on the way to their big day. Between endless meetings with event planners, venue viewings, and minute decisions regarding napkin designs, the process of planning perfect nuptials can be exhausting. But what is a bride to do when her fiancé has completely checked out of the wedding preparations? Our etiquette experts weigh in on re-engaging an overwhelmed groom.

Weddings are a huge undertaking, and even the most enthusiastic couples do suffer from planning overload on occasion. If your fiancé is thoroughly fed up with all talk of the wedding, the best way to gradually reignite his interest is by first allowing him sufficient time to unplug and decompress without discussing it. Your groom may not be as devoted to the minutiae of wedding planning, and inundating conversations with questions or concerns about the upcoming "I dos" could simply be a source of stress. After tabling wedding talk for an adequate amount of time, try asking your fiancé which facets of the wedding excite him most. If your hubby-to-be delights in selecting the DJ and the dinner menu but finds selecting the color palette tedious, place him in charge of his desired tasks and tackle on the latter details of the wedding solo.

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Establish guidelines to limit your dialogue regarding the wedding. Your nuptials should be a joyful celebration, not a second job; therefore, restricting talk of your wedding to one hour a day or on the weekend may lower your fiancé's anxiety and renew his interest in the affair. The key to rekindling your fiancé's wedding-planning passion is simultaneously allowing him to take charge of his favored facets of the celebration while ensuring the wedding preparations do not feel like work.

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