5 Things You Shouldn't Feel Guilty About During Wedding Planning

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From where to get hitched to narrowing down the guest list, wedding planning can seem like a never-ending list of to-dos, ugh. While it's technically "your day", you can't help but think how every single decision you make will affect your loved ones; it's simply human nature. Remember: you can't please everyone though, and you certainly shouldn't try. So if there are five things not to feel guilty about during the planning process, it's these.

1. Not having a huge wedding.
There will always be those people that get upset/offended that they weren't invited to your big day, even after they find out how small the guest list is. Wedding size is a very personal decision, one that you should never be made to feel guilty about. Hey, haters gonna hate though!

2. Not being able to give everyone a plus one.
Think of it this way: if you were made of money, it would be a non-issue, right? Weddings are expensive, however, and you have to keep costs down somehow. If your friends don't understand or think you're being selfish, that's their issue, not yours. You shouldn't have to sacrifice the type of wedding you want to accommodate a date for everyone. Obviously, long-term partners and husbands/wives are a different story.

3. Not asking someone to be a bridesmaid.
Maybe you've grown apart over the years, or she's your sister-in-law but you're not close at all. Whatever the reason may be, by no means should you ever be guilt tripped into asking someone to be a part of your big day. If it's going to be an issue and you worry you'll feel bad about not including her down the road, either be upfront about who your bridesmaids are from the start or ask her to participate in the wedding in some other way before you propose to your maids. This way, it won't seem like such an after-thought.

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4. Having the bachelorette party you want.
Always dreamt of jet setting to Mexico to spend a few days lounging poolside and sipping cocktails with little umbrellas in them for your bachelorette? By all means, go for it! Chances are, there will be some friends who won't be able to afford it, and that's fine, as long as you aren't a total bridezilla about it, of course. You can always plan a local night out for anyone who can't come and have your maid of honor (assuming she can go) let everyone know you understand people are busy, have demanding jobs and it's a lot of money so no hard feelings at all if they can't make it.

5. Getting gifts.
Even if you didn't create a registry or requested no gifts, people who give them to you genuinely want to do so from the bottom of their hearts, trust us. In fact, most wedding guests love showering the newlywed couple with gifts and would hate for you to feel a single ounce of guilt for receiving them. So just be grateful is our best advice.

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