We Want to Throw Our Wedding Over a Holiday Weekend, But None of Our Friends and Family Want Us To. What Should We Do?


Choosing the perfect wedding date is a herculean task for brides-to-be, if only because friends and family rarely run on a similar schedule. Hosting your wedding on a holiday weekend may seem like the ideal solution, but what happens when the bride's nearest and dearest all express concern over celebrating the occasion then? Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to handle a wedding date that causes conflicts.

If none of your desired wedding guests can attend your celebration on a holiday weekend, it may be time to reconsider your chosen wedding date. If you move forward, be prepared for the possible absence of loved ones and dear friends. Holiday weekends are an especially tricky choice for a wedding date, since families often take the opportunity to schedule long-awaited vacations or simply relax at home. Forcing your friends and family to reschedule their plans and alter their calendars to suit your preferences may result in a celebration full of disgruntled guests.

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Instead of stubbornly standing by your desired wedding date, reach out to your loved ones with one or two other suggested dates to get a sense of your desired guests' availability. If one date appears more satisfactory for your invitees, you can feel comfortable in securing the day for your wedding. Sacrificing your preferred wedding date to ensure your guests' attendance is a small price to pay for soiree that includes the most important people in your life.

Of course, if getting married over a holiday weekend is really important to you, make sure to let that be known and to give close family and friends a heads up to a year in advance so they don't go ahead and make alternate plans.

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