The Pros and Cons of Hiring Your Friend as a Wedding Vendor

Etiquette, Relationships
The Pros and Cons of Hiring Your Friend as a Wedding Vendor

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Considering bringing your hairstylist bestie on board to do your bridesmaids' hair for the wedding? Or perhaps your sorority sister became a planner and you think it'd be a ton of fun to work together? Before you sign on the dotted line, brides, keep these pros and cons in mind!

Pro: You feel completely comfortable with them
Since you've probably known your friend for longer than any other vendor you have, you'll be completely at ease and comfortable with him or her, points out Charleston-based wedding planner Francesca DiSalvo-Follmer of Pure Luxe Bride. With an established relationship, you also have a shoulder to cry on, guilt-free, because a friend is personally invested in your happiness, adds wedding and event designer Marc Wilson of MWD Lifestyles.

Con: It could strain your friendship
Chances are, you're hiring your friend because you know he or she will do a killer job. If something were to go awry however, it could potentially ruin your friendship or bring about animosity, warns DiSalvo-Follmer. You'd hate to have bad blood à la Taylor Swift, right?

Pro: You'll likely get a deep discount
Looking to save some dough? A vendor friend could definitely be the way to go! "Some weddings are as expensive as a deposit on a home," points out Wilson. In this case, "There's nothing like that friends and family rate to relieve budget concerns."

Con: Your friend may not be up for the job
Yes, your friend is a professional, but as DiSalvo-Follmer explains, he or she may want to enjoy your nuptials as a guest, not a wedding vendor. "You also have to consider the possibility that even the most polished, well-adjusted friend will be running around on your wedding day to ensure everything is just so, instead of actually enjoying it with you," cautions Wilson.

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Pro: A good friend knows you best
And, in turn, is more likely to make executive decisions that closely resemble what you'd make, says Wilson. Moreover, "A good friend will be honest and guide you in the right direction, according to your needs, hopes and vision." Knowing you intimately and having that established relationship prior to the wedding means they most certainly will have your best interest at heart.

Con: It isn't as easy to express when you're not that into an idea
Although diplomacy, dialogue and even a little champagne can help along the way, Wilson warns that it can be a challenge to shut down ideas you absolutely hate without hurting the feelings of a friend-turned-wedding aficionado sometimes.

Con: Certain costs may be overlooked
If your friend isn't a professional wedding producer or planner (or any vendor for that matter), he or she may overlook certain costs, which increases the chances that the discount that was originally offered may not be as forgiving to the budget as you had initially anticipated. In other words, be careful!

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