Ask a Bridesmaid: How Do I Make a Good Impression as a Guest?


Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates. For her column, Jen answers a wedding guest's burning question: How do I make a good impression as a plus-one?

Dear Jen,
I'm a guest at my new boyfriend's brother's wedding and I'm very nervous. Not only am I meeting a couple of tables worth of family members I've never met before, I'm also going to be by the side of my boyfriend during many intimate wedding family moments. Do you have any pointers or tips for me so that I don't completely embarrass myself or make a terrible first impression?
How Do I Plus "Won"

Dear "How Do I Plus Won?,"
Believe it or not, meeting your boyfriend's family for the first time at a wedding is actually the perfect setting. Weddings are a time of enormous excitement and hours on the dance floor. Making a good, unforgettable first impression at a wedding is simple if you follow these few things.

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1. Ask to help out if needed.
If you see there's things you can do to help (whether that's helping with photos, or setting up decorations, or guiding guests onto the bus), offer to lend a hand.

2. Go easy on the drinks.
Stay hydrated with water and be as sober as possible. You want to be able to shake hands with new family members and have meaningful conversations with them.

3. Bring a gift with you.
Even if that's just a simple sweet card, thanking the bride and groom for having you there.

4. Don't be afraid to show off your moves.
Enjoy yourself at the wedding and remember that you can never go wrong by keeping the party going with some smooth moves on the dance floor!

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