How to Get Your Groom Involved Without Him Knowing It

Grooms, Planning Tips
Getting Fiance Involved In Wedding Planning

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Raquel Kelley, E! Fashion Police producer and the creative force behind the wedding blog, I Guess I Do, reveals how to get your less-than-enthusiastic groom more involved in the wedding planning — without him even realizing it.

Please tell me I am not alone in this situation:

Me: "Can we please talk about the cake? I want your opinion."
Fiancé: "Yeah sure." (He says while never taking his eyes off the television)
Me: Really?
Fiancé: Fine, fine. I'll pay attention.
I proceed to go into cake details for approximately 3 minutes...
Fiancé: (After blankly staring at me for those 3 minutes) "Cool. Can I turn on the Buckeye's game? 4th Quarter."

Yes, it may have been our wedding day, but on most days it seemed like there was no 'we' in the word 'planning'. If your fiancé is involved and gung-ho from the get-go, then great! If not, here are three ways to get him involved and lighten your load without him even knowing it. It just so happens to involve three things that usually strike their fancy — diagrams, playlists, and power tools.

If there is one thing I learned about the male specimen over the years, it's that they love a good excel spreadsheet. Maybe it is all of those hours spent on Fantasy Football, but man do they dig a good diagram. So let them.

I simply asked my husband to take a look at the layout of the venue and how we could fit in more people, and all of a sudden he was like a kid in a candy store — researching rental company's renderings and designing his own idea of what would work best. Bam! There you have it - a new and improved seating chart. Who knew?

See more: How to Pen the Perfect Love Letter to Your Groom

Full disclosure — I have no idea what the kids are listening to these days. My commutes to work are filled with 'Lite Rock, Less Talk.' I can recite the lyrics to any Richard Marx song, yet my nephews and nieces had to teach how to 'Whip' and 'Nae Nae' just last week.

If music is your husband's forte, then let him run with playlists for things like cocktail hour, or any rehearsal festivities. A little Jay-Z while sipping a signature drink won't hurt anybody.

Power Tools
This is my favorite one. Totally "Tim, The Tool Man Taylor" and Home Improvement the hell out of them, so they help you out with any DIY projects. By the end of planning, we were running low on funds and instead of renting a photo booth, I wanted to save money and make something ourselves.

We came up with the idea of making an Awkward Family Photo Wall that people would snap Polaroid pictures at. My husband worked on it for days on the patio of our one bedroom apartment. It became his pride and joy. A couple hundred bucks, some wood, screws, and a couple yards of fabric later, it would then become the hit of our wedding reception!

To this day, he is still delighted in that fact, and loves those pictures so much more, because it was his. Now if anyone has found a way to capitalize on productivity around the house during football season, will you please let me know?

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