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You love your engagement ring and wedding band. Of course you do. But sometimes, whether you need to give your ring finger relief or change up your fashion accessories, you slip them off. Part of you feels guilty — but the other part simply wonders, do I really need to wear them every single day?
"Modern couples acknowledge that they will be growing and changing in unpredictable ways," says Mark O'Connell, psychotherapist and author of Modern Brides and Grooms. "However, I think most couples still like to wear rings to symbolize their commitment to growing as a pair."
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If you slip your rings off, some people, including your spouse, could question whether you have an ulterior motive more nefarious than being a slave to fashion or having good-hearted intentions to protect them as you work or travel. To prevent giving the wrong impression to your partner, clearly express to him or her why you've removed your rings, then "listen to and reflect back how that choice affects him or her," O'Connell says. You may find he or she doesn't need you to wear a solid gold (or platinum!) symbol of your commitment each and every day. But if he or she can't stand the thought of you without them on or simply worries you will lose them, it may be best to put them back on and keep them there.
O'Connell shares this real life example of why it might be best to always wear your rings: "My husband lost his a week after our wedding," he says. "He now wears a ring that locks — not like a medieval contraption with a bolt and spiky ball, but one that stays secure if you turn it. And he has not lost it since. This is not a prison sentence for him. This was our playful compromise. It acknowledged how losing his ring made me feel, and allows us to laugh and be creative and playful about the whole thing."