How To Keep a Bridesmaid Who Likes to Party Hard From Ruining Your Wedding

Bridesmaids, Etiquette
Rowdy Bridesmaid

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A wedding is a time of for guests and the the wedding party to celebrate. However, nothing ruins an elegant affair quite like a wild bridesmaid who enjoys more than her fair share of champagne. So what is a bride to do when one of her bridesmaids often goes overboard on the partying front? Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to prevent a hot mess bridesmaid from wreaking havoc on the wedding.

The key to handling a rogue bridesmaid is taking a tactful approach. Insinuating that your bridesmaid's behavior is problematic may result in an adverse reaction if she feels that your comments are too critical. Try to refrain from accusatory or judgmental language. Instead of singling her out, consider making a blanket statement to your entire bridal entourage about your preferred wedding decorum. Choose a time when you have the full attention of your bridesmaids to discuss your hopes for their wedding etiquette. No wedding guest wishes to be regulated by stuffy dictums, so be sure to reiterate that you wish for your maids to have a great time, but within reason. However, not every bride will be comfortable initiating such a conversation. If this is the case, you can also send out a cheerful email with notes and reminders about the wedding, including a small footnote encouraging your bridesmaids to hydrate and keep their wits about them during the soiree to ensure everyone enjoys the celebration.

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If chatting with your bridal party seems far too complex for your taste, you can also assign a close confidant to keep a close eye on the potentially raucous friend. If you trust your maid of honor with the task, diplomatically explain the situation and ask that she keep a close eye on the rogue bridesmaid to ensure smooth sailing ahead. With your bridesmaid under the careful supervision of a trusted friend, you can feel free to enjoy your wedding festivities without fear of your friend causing a scene.

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