The Ultimate Guide to Mother-of-the-Bride Accessories

Jewelry & Accessories, Moms

A wedding isn't just a big day for the bride; it's a monumental moment in a mother's life too. As the host, she wants to look and feel her best in front of all your guests, and accessories can play a huge part in that. How much is too much jewelry though? And are there any rules when it comes to shoes? We sat down with fashion expert Julie Sabatino, founder of The Stylish Bride, to pick her brain on picking out the perfect mother-of-the-bride accessories. As if saying yes to the dress wasn't stressful enough!

Don't over accessorize
It's your daughter's time to shine so this isn't the day to be outrageous or experimenting in any way with your jewelry, warns Sabatino. "Keep it classic and simple, and don't overdo it with statement pieces as a general rule." The exception to that would be if you're wearing a very simple frock, then a fabulous statement necklace would be appropriate to dress it up. Overall, your accessories should be significant enough to recognize you're the host, yet not too much, she notes. It's all about finding the right balance.

Use the dress code as a guide
Is it a more casual outdoor wedding or a fancy black tie affair? The formality of the event will definitely help dictate your accessories, says Sabatino. Your jewelry should be tasteful and in line with the dress code. You want to stick out but not like a sore thumb!

Know what the bride and bridesmaids are wearing
This way, you don't look like you're trying to compete with your daughter or her friends at the wedding (not cool!). To play it safe and nip any worries in the bud, Sabatino suggests running what you're wearing by the bride beforehand. It gives you the opportunity to bond and coordinate with her on your big day look. Basically, it's a win-win for everyone.

See More: 4 Things to Remember If You Let Your Bridesmaids Choose Their Own Accessories

Bring an extra pair of shoes
And make sure both are as comfortable as possible since you'll be on your feet all day, advises Sabatino. There are no hard and fast rules as far as heel height goes. However, "It's always a great idea to have a change of shoes on hand, such as flats, when the dancing comes."

Accessorize with a beautiful shrug
One major concern Sabatino often sees with moms is how to best cover up the arms, as she's rarely met a mother-of-the-bride that wants to show them off. "An accessory we pay a ton of attention to is what kind of shrug, overlay, bolero or jacket to wear," she explains. Look for something that provides the proper coverage and meets the dress code, and you'll be golden.

Stash a linen handkerchief in your purse
Because chances are you're going to shed some tears! "This is a great gift to give mom on the wedding date and one of those items that can be passed down to the next generation," says Sabatino. We recommend getting it embroidered for that extra special touch.

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