How to Let a Friend Know Her Daughter Won't Be Your Flower Girl

Etiquette, Kids

Many moms with girls under the age of 10 dream of their daughter being selected as a flower girl for a wedding; after all, witnessing the happiest day of a bride's life and sharing in the celebration offers an unequivocal experience for young children. Not to mention, what could be cuter than having your little one dress up, throw some flower petals, and walk down the aisle. But what happens when a bride has promised the position to her niece in lieu of a friend's daughter? Our etiquette experts weigh in on the art of gently letting down a would-be flower girl.

You have an incredibly valid excuse for passing over your friend's daughter for the role of flower girl. Family always comes first, and both your friend and her daughter should understand that a niece takes precedence over a family friend. In this case, sitting down with your friend and explaining the truth behind the decision is absolutely the best course of action. Your friend will likely understand the predicament and support your decision.

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On the other hand, you may wish to consider the possibility of including two flower girls in your processional. If your wedding is large enough, guests will think nothing of two young ones sharing the role of flower girl in lieu of one. Should you choose to limit your wedding party to one flower girl, there are other ways to involve your friend's daughter in the festivities. Perhaps your friend's daughter is old enough to take on the role of junior bridesmaid, and can therefore be a part of the wedding in that manner. Whatever direction you choose to take, remember that the occasion is your wedding day, and your choices will be respected by those who truly love you.

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