Photo: Julian Kanz
Many couples have the opportunity to meet one another's families before they get engaged, but a great deal also do not. If the latter applies to you, then you've already made a huge commitment to one another and may have even started planning the wedding, so finally getting to know your future in-laws may seem pretty daunting. Being yourself with an added layer of kindness sprinkled on top is always the best way to make a great first impression, but there are some things that will ensure that first get-together goes off without a hitch. Here are five tips to charm the pants off your future family.
1. Do Your Research
Marriage has some similarities to business and you would never walk into a meeting at your job ill-prepared would you? Make sure you get all the info on your future in-laws before this momentous gathering. Does Mom love soap operas or is Dad a cognac aficionado? Your knowledge of their interests, aversions, and even the things they've said about your spouse-to-be's ex are all par for the course and will definitely make a great impression.
2. Look Your Best
Leave the mini skirts, sky-high platform pumps, and stylish spins on sweatpants at home ladies. We're all for fashion, but this is the time to take it easy and opt for something more pared-down and timeless. Making sure your hair is fresh and clean and getting a manicure will also have you looking and feeling your best.
3. Be Attentive and Friendly
We're sure you're already a polite individual and this is where that amazing home training will work wonders. Pile on the "please" and "thank yous," offer to clean up everyone's plates, and even do the dishes. Being respectful, kind, unselfish, and thoughtful will never steer you wrong: especially with the family of the person you love.
4. Bring a Thoughtful Gift
Gifts are a great way to show your appreciation and they're pretty much mandatory for an unforgettable affair like this one. A bottle of vino often does the trick, but if that's off the table, don't be afraid to get your hands dirty: a nice little DIY token or even your best dessert will show you care and that you put some time and thought into it.
Take a deep breath and realize that though this is a big deal, you've already done a lot of the legwork which is impressing their daughter or son to the point that you're now engaged! You're each getting more family which is fantastic, but it's hard for any parent to relinquish most of the care for their child to someone else. Showing them all your best qualities without coming off too sugary will let them know that you're serious, steady, and stable.