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Getting engaged at the same time as your sister is extremely special and makes for an even more meaningful wedding planning experience. Cake tastings, venue hunting, and even the hunt for the ideal bridal gown can all be done together (especially if you're extremely close)! But what happens when an appointment at the local bridal salon causes both sisters to swoon over one wedding dress in particular? Our etiquette experts weigh in on what happens when two sisters want to say yes to the same dress.
Sisters who fall hard the same bridal gown have three feasible options to choose from. First, you may share the gown if neither party is willing to relinquish the item (which, let's face it, is highly unlikely). Second, one sister can relinquish her right to the gown in deference to her sibling's happiness. And last but not least, both parties can agree to leave the dress behind in order to preserve their relationship. If the gown in question is a minimal or popular design and each sister feels confident in her ability to find similarly special dresses, the best option for both parties is to let go of the dress. Consider setting up an appointment at another bridal salon to test similar wares; you may find that the plethora of alternative options on the market are far more enticing than your initial pick.
If you think you may want to share the gown, give it some serious thought. Though not a common practice, sharing the gown with your sister could create a meaningful family tradition for generations to come. However, plenty of questions arrive from this atypical scenario: Who will wear the gown first? Will the second bride have the option to customize the gown with her sister's approval? Are both parties comfortable with their wedding gown playing a feature role in both sets of wedding festivities and pictures? You must take these questions into account before moving forward with your choice.
If you or your sister is feeling particularly benevolent, there is always the option for one bride to simply concede the gown. If your sister has a deeper attachment to the gown than your own, allowing her the joy of celebrating her special day in an equally exceptional gown is the right thing to do.