4 Things to Remember If You Let Your Bridesmaids Choose Their Own Accessories

Bridesmaids, Jewelry & Accessories
mismatched bridesmaids advice

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Matchy-matchy is out, and eclectic is in! Modern brides are finally wising up to the fact that their maids don't have to be twinning to win in the wardrobe department. They're letting their girls select their own dresses and loosening up when it comes to dictating the accessories, too. Remember though, while it's great to give your besties a bit of freedom, too much can lead to confusion and, potentially, an unkempt wedding party. Let us help you help them by setting a few ground rules for mismatched bridesmaid accessories.

1. Be specific in terms of style, size and amount.
Are you going for a classic, understated look or a hip bohemian vibe? If you're leaning toward the former, Chief Creative Officer of Stella & Dot Blythe Harris advises keeping things super simple and asking your bridesmaids to rock basic studs or a delicate necklace. "Unless the jewelry is all coordinated, it looks more modern to have everyone be minimal," she says. Boho bridesmaids, on the other hand, have the liberty to experiment a bit more in the jewelry department. For example, Show Me Your Mumu co-founder and boho bride-to-be, Cologne Schmidt, personally loves accessories and is having her maids wear as much as they're comfortable with. She does, however, suggest being specific on how accessorized you want them to be and what colors they should wear — which we'll get to next.

2. Give them color (and metal!) guidelines.
Make things easier on your maids, and let them know what color accessories you prefer and the metal type, too. If you're really digging mint dangle earrings, for example, then don't forget to tell your girls whether those earrings should be in gold, rose gold or silver. Concerned about budget? Harris recommends honing in on a color that most people already own, particularly for shoes.

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3. Pick a focal point.
"Have your bridesmaids focus on either a necklace or earrings and a bracelet so that the focal point on everyone is the same and works with the dress silhouette," says Harris. If your maids are wearing all different dresses with different necklines, skip the necklace and opt for something simple like delicate studs.

4. Create a (secret) Pinterest board for inspiration.
"The more you can communicate clear guidelines and give a sense of your overall wedding vibe, the better the result will be," points out Harris. To reduce the risk of surprise and ensure your bridesmaids select wedding accessories you'll also be into, why not create a Pinterest board filled with photos of accessorized looks you love? They'll appreciate the guidance, and you'll be pleased with the end result. It's a win-win.

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