What to Do When Your RSVP Date Has Passed and You Haven't Heard From Many Guests


You wedding day only requires two guests in attendance to be a true success, and that's obviously you and your fiancé. But celebrating this joyous occasion is made all the more poignant when your friends and family are present — that is, if they can remember to respond to your wedding invitation! So what is a bride to do when the RSVP deadline has passed and a significant number of the would-be wedding guests simply haven't submitted a response? Our etiquette experts weigh in on the tiresome task of tracking down RSVP answers from wayward guests.

Ticking wedding invitations off your never-ending to-do list is a significant step on the road towards your wedding, but your job isn't quite done until you receive responses from your guests. As the host of the event, it is your unfortunate responsibility to follow up with guests who missed the RSVP deadline. If you prefer a less direct approach to the matter, you can send kindly worded emails to guests who have not responded inquiring about their availability. Inform your guests that you wish to have the pleasure of their presence at your wedding, and are simply seeking an accurate headcount for the celebration. Also give each guest a timeframe within which they can respond, after which you will assume they are unable to attend.

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Brides who wish to get a head count more quickly will likely find better results by directly calling guests who haven't responded. Whichever route you choose to take, remember that your guests are well-intentioned people who lead busy lives and meant no disrespect by failing to meet your RSVP deadline. If you word your RSVP check-in's succinctly and affectionately, you'll likely receive an influx of affirmative responses in no time.

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