5 Things the Mother of the Bride Should Never, Ever Say to Her Daughter

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Whether it's a critical remark or self-centered comment, some mothers of the bride apparently never heard the adage, "Think before you speak." Here are a few sentences that should never have been said aloud.

1. "Spending $1,000 on a cake/centerpieces/invitations is ridiculous."
Unless she's paying for it, Mom doesn't get a vote. Maybe you and the groom are cutting back on something else to be able to afford this one extravagance. Or maybe not. As long as it fits in your budget, do things your way.

2. "His mom is serving Chinese takeout for the rehearsal dinner???"
If the groom's parents are hosting, they can serve whatever they like. While Mom may have been expecting a more traditional meal, maybe the cuisine is a family favorite served on special occasions. Your mother should grin, bear it and pass the soy sauce.

3. "The best man is hot! Can you introduce me?"
There's nothing wrong with noticing an attractive man or flirting with him — unless he happens to be her almost son-in-law's bestie who's half her age. Tell her to leave Junior alone, at least until after the wedding!

4. "I could do a better job than your vendors."
On your wedding day, Mom's critical eye is working overtime: The flowers look wilted, the food needs more flavor, the dj is playing too much hip-hop. Her nerves and excitement may be getting the best of her — don't let them get to you. Ignore her criticisms and focus on the many good things about your day.

5. "I'm wearing white, too!"
Of all the dresses in all the colors in all the world, her best choice is white? Really? That color has a "reserved" sign on it meant solely for the bride, so unless she's planning on saying "I do" that day too (please don't), she should return the dress and pick a hue more appropriate for the MOB — which is pretty much any other color.

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