Your Sister-in-Law Wants to Sing at Your Wedding. Now What?


The announcement of an upcoming wedding is often just as joyful for a couple's friends and family as it is for the bride and the groom themselves. However, some relatives choose to revel in ways that may not be appropriate for the big day itself, from offering to bake the wedding cake to promising a standup routine for the rehearsal dinner. Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to tactfully turn down a sister-in-law's offer to sing at the reception without crushing the dreams of an American Idol hopeful in the process.

Before you channel your inner bridezilla and launch into a tirade against karaoke, remember that your sister-in-law will play a significant part in your life for years to come. Being mindful that her emotions can not only effect your wedding day, but also the beginning of a respectful and fond relationship as you become closer to your fiancé's family is super important. Be sure to start by acknowledging how thoughtful you find your sister-in-law's offer to sing. If she has a true talent for music that is generally recognized in the family, you may also wish to pay her a compliment.

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Next, explain that despite the kindness of her gesture, you and your hubby-to-be have already procured live entertainment, and wish for your guests to sit back and enjoy the festivities without fretting over a performance. Finally, suggest another manner in which your sister-in-law can express her joy at the wedding, whether it be a speech at the rehearsal dinner or a poem reading during toasts at your reception. If your sister-in-law truly has her heart set on singing, you can always suggest a round of karaoke at your bachelorette party.

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