Calm Down! Here's How to Not Second-Guess Every Wedding Decision You Make

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Whomever said you can never have enough of a good thing has clearly never planned a wedding. Now more than ever — thanks to an array of online options, social media, and an overload of gorgeous wedding images on Pinterest — brides have almost limitless options when it comes to wedding planning. And while endless possibilities are empowering, says Viva Max Kaley, creator of Viva Max Weddings, they're also an easy way to "get lost and overwhelmed and never feel fully confident you didn't miss the perfect thing if you just looked a little longer. This is maddening."

But you can banish the did-I-make-the-right-decision blues with her expert tips.

Trust your vendors.
"When it comes to hiring vendors there is no way to know exactly what your wedding will be like with them, no matter how many reviews you read," Kaley says. But if you hire a team of experts whose aesthetic matches your own and who truly listen to what you want, you'll have little to worry about. "You can let go a little bit and know they will guide you to create something you will love," she says.

Don't stress over the details.
"Weddings are my passion and my life commitment, but I have a little secret: Guests don't care that much about the details of your wedding!" says Kaley. What do they care about? "They want to get there with ease. They want to be fed and they want to see you two smiling and happy. The other stuff is gravy," she says. "The decisions you make will add to their experience for sure, but not enough to stress you out to the point where you could possibly have regrets."

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Hire a planner.
We feel most confident when we make educated decisions — but you haven't earned an honorary Ph.D. in wedding planning quite yet. "You may be second-guessing your choices because you feel you don't have the time to truly learn enough about your options," Kaley points out. While "friends and family may get tired of comparing options with you over and over, a planner is there to get you through those tough decisions by being sensitive to your individual needs and by sharing their years of knowledge and experience in the industry."

Stick to your budget.
"Having a clear, realistic budget will allow you to feel like a more confident shopper," says Kaley. "You wont need to second guess your decisions because you will see how the price tag fits into the overall wedding package, and will know immediately if this item is the right fit for your wedding."

Know your priorities.
Max advises selecting your three must-haves early on, which gives you a clear vision of what to invest in and what to cut back on. For example, "if you didn't make the outfits your top priority, maybe go with the less expensive sash and move on," says Kaley. "You can't upgrade everything if you are keeping to a budget and being a smart shopper. Placing these limits on yourself can help to not second-guess your decisions since you are clear of your priorities from the start."

Realize you will have regrets no matter what.
"I am a wedding planner and I had regrets at my wedding," Kaley admits. "I regret not paying for someone to professionally do my hair and makeup. And I regret not having a professional video of my wedding. But you know what? I am still married to my husband. Our wedding was our wedding and we love it for better or worse."

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