Do You Have to Invite Unsupportive Family Members to Your Same-Sex Wedding?

Etiquette, Gay Marriage

You're engaged and you're getting married. Like any couple, you've got to work around the "must-invites" when you're putting together the list of who will actually be invited to your big day. While for some couples, that list is pretty non-negotiable, lesbian brides and gay grooms have yet another criteria to consider when deciding who to invite: Does the person support their marriage?

The short answer: You do not have to invite anyone who does not wish you and your future spouse happiness and joy, or who has expressed a negative opinion regarding same-sex marriage. Yes, traditionally, you're supposed to invite your crazy great aunt, but take her off the list if she made an inappropriate remark about your sexuality the last time you saw her.

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If you find yourself justifying the person's past behavior and looking for excuses to invite them, maybe this person truly is a "must-invite" guest and should receive an invitation. But only after you've had a conversation about how important they are to you, but you do not want to hear another word of negativity about your life choices ever. Someone who enthusiastically agrees to that may be very happy to have received a second chance to have a special place in your life.

Just remember: Anybody who doesn't support your marriage shouldn't be invited to be a wedding guest.

Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.

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