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Sometimes it's better to give than to receive. Case in point: Check out what some some inventive brides-to-be dreamed up for their fiancés.
The Bride Who Included the Whole Family
All through the wedding-planning process Lacey, who married in May, did many things with her fiancé James's wishes in mind — from letting the groomsmen wear Vans sneakers despite the formality of the affair to ordering a groom's cake that paid homage to James's dad, a musician, who had recently died. But the most memorable maneuver involved officially welcoming his son Dylan into her life during the ceremony. "James and I are big watch fanatics. I got Dylan his first real watch with our initials and wedding date engraved on the back and in the middle of the ceremony I called him over and presented him with the gift, promising to always watch over and protect him." Not surprisingly there was not a dry eye in the house at that moment, including of course Dylan and his dad, the thrilled-beyond-words groom.
The Bride Who Warmed Up His Cold Feet
Kendra got married this past April. Leading up to the wedding whenever the couple would talk to her dad on the phone, he'd say to his daughter's fiancé Reggie, "Make sure you keep your socks on!" — the older man's way of saying,"Don't get cold feet." A few hours before the wedding Kendra's maid of honor delivered Cold Feet Socks to the groom. Kendra says, "It made for a great photo/video moment. Reggie said they really made him laugh and shake off some of those pre-wedding jitters." Kendra had an ulterior moment for her gift. "It was a way to make sure he didn't show up in socks with holes — which he is famous for wearing!"
The Bride Who Worked with the Best Man
Taylor's fiancé Austin was looking forward to his groomsman Bart's planned speech/toast at the couple's June wedding. Then Bart's longed-for placement in the highly competitive Marines Officer School came through. Alas his reporting date is five days before the nuptials. Taylor says, "Austin's been talking about how great and funny Bart's speech would be and how bummed his best friend won't be there for the most important day of our lives." Her solution: "As a surprise we will be showing a pre-recorded video from Bart that will play during the toasts. I'm sure there will be lots of tears and my fiancé will love the surprise!"
Sherry Amatenstein is a New York City-based marriage therapist and author.