What to Do When Your Future Mother-in-Law Insists You Take Lessons for Your First Dance

Etiquette, Planning Tips

Forging a bond with your mother-in-law is a tricky business, especially when her taste and lifestyle doesn't perfectly mesh with your own. And sometimes, even a simple suggestion to improve your waltzing skills for the big day, can become frustrating, especially when you don't see eye to eye. How can you dance around the issue without displeasing your future family? Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to deal with a future mother-in-law who is pressuring your to take lessons for our first dance — when you think it's completely unnecessary.

A sound relationship with your future mother-in-law is essential; after all, your wedding will only last a day, but you're saying "I do" to your fiancé's family for life. By suggesting dance lessons and any other wedding planning-related tasks, your mother-in-law could simply be drawing on her own experience to ensure your big day is perfect. Choosing to fight this particular battle may cause friction in your friendship with your mother-in-law, so make sure to take her opinion into account when you decide whether or not to take lessons.

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First, get a sense of how important the dance lessons are to your mother-in-law. Is it a family tradition for each couple to take lessons before they wed? If so, it would be wise to respect your mother-in-law's wishes and take a lesson. Alternatively, your mother-in-law may simply wish for her son to look graceful on the dance floor instead of employing his arsenal of cheesy moves. Finally, think about how much an hour-long dance lesson or two will really impact your life. If you can make time to watch Scandal, you can make time for a dance lesson as a good will gesture towards your mother-in-law.

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