How to Hint to Your Bridesmaids You Want a Surprise Bridal Shower

Etiquette, Showers & Parties

A festive bridal shower can set the tone for your wedding festivities when planned correctly, and what better way to celebrate your upcoming nuptials than by taking a moment to unwind with your wedding party? But hinting to your bridesmaids that you want a surprise shower requires a significant amount of subtlety. Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to broach the subject of a surprise bridal shower with your bridesmaids.

Before you bombard your bridal party with ill-disguised suggestions of a surprise bridal shower, take a moment to strategize your approach. Your bridal party may already be in the process of planning a shindig, and insinuating that your group has neglected their duty may result in some major negativity and hurt feelings. Instead, sporadically maneuver your conversations with your maid of honor to the subject of bridal showers, and casually mention your adoration of the tradition — especially when it's a surprise.

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It might also help to draw on a personal experience to illustrate your point. Maybe a bride whose wedding you attended was offered a surprise shower, you and your 'maids recently toasted a bride-to-be at an unexpected gathering, or you recently caught an episode of your favorite sitcom in which a primary character experienced a surprise shower. Make sure your hints fall into the conversation naturally, and your bridesmaids will come to understand your adoration of the idea in time. Soon enough, you should be showered with love and gifts in a surprise shindig you didn't expect!

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