How to Handle an Officiant Who Wants to Crack Jokes During Your Ceremony


Everyone enjoys a good comedy act, but a wedding ceremony is not the ideal time to bust out witty one-liners. But what happens when the would-be comedian is none other than the officiant himself? Our etiquette experts weigh in on the best way to handle a wayward minister with his own jocular agenda for your nuptials.

Your options for managing the situation will vary depending on how well you know your officiant. If your chosen master of ceremonies is a close friend or family member, you may be able to host a simple sit-down and explain that wisecracks should be saved for the reception toast instead of inserted into your ceremony. As long as the suggestion is phrased in a kind-hearted manner, loved ones who truly care about you will respect your wishes without taking offense.

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If you have decided to appoint an officiant that you're not connected to or don't know, your best bet is to take a more businesslike approach to the conundrum. As someone you have employed to perform your ceremony, your officiant should be ready to cater the service to your particular taste. Schedule a meeting with your officiant and gently state that although you appreciate his jovial sense of humor, you would prefer a more formal ceremony that celebrates the deep commitment and love you have pledged to your fiancé. As long as your officiant understands that the request is not a criticism but rather a reflection of your hopes for the ceremony, he should have no qualms fulfilling it.

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