Tips to Keep Your Best Man from Embarrassing You During His Speech

Etiquette, Planning Tips

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You adore your fiancé's best friend — but maybe you're not exactly sold on his sense of humor or comedic timing. If so, it's only natural to fear what he might have to say with a microphone in his hand and a few drinks in his belly.

But don't worry too much. In today's weddings, "most best men keep it short and heartfelt," says Alicia Matsumoto, event producer at Alison Events in San Francisco. "Whenever I've seen things take a turn, the speech has included remarks about the groom's past indiscretions — and that's never appropriate!"

So if you'd like to keep your new husband's past — and any other embarrassing relationship facts — out of your best man's speech, here's what you can do.

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"The couple should both talk to the best man before the wedding day and review their expectations," says Matsumoto. "It's a good idea to ask him to limit his alcohol intake prior to the speech as well."

On your wedding day, have your planner ready to take action should his speech veer toward TMI. "You could also ask the best man to partner-up and do the speech with one of your — hopefully more responsible — groomsmen," Matsumoto suggests. "They can work together to write the speech and the groomsman can keep him in check!"

Finally, ease your worries by remembering "your best man was chosen because he is an important person in both of your lives," says Matsumoto. "If you speak with him before and lay out your hopes for his speech, he should respect your wishes and keep it appropriate!"

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