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Once you've got the ring, your work is done, right? Wrong! You can — and should! — still flirt with your husband to keep alive the spark that drove him to one knee in the first place. "Often we think it's all business after marriage — less sex, less flirting," says relationship expert Rachel DeAlto. "But flirting is the playful spark that keeps the excitement going, and it lets your partner know that you are into him. Making him feel important and desired is essential."
So, what are you waiting for? Reignite that spark and get your flirt on in these expert-approved ways.
Touch him often.
"At the cornerstone of flirting is touch," explains DeAlto, "and you can touch a whole lot when you're in a relationship. Just the physical connection is boundary shedding."
Text (or sext) him.
Send him a reminder of your last sexy experience. Then, "ask to choose three new places he'd like to try the same sexual encounter," psychotherapist and certified sex therapist Sari Cooper says.
Take time to really talk.
"Are your conversations fly-bys?" asks DeAlto. "Take time to really connect and flirt. Eliminate distractions. Sit across from each other for dinner. Smile, make eye contact."
Meet your husband at a bar, but pretend you don't know him. "Ask him to give you three reasons you should agree to go out with him," says Cooper, to get both your engines revved and ready to go home.
Make one day all about him.
Just one, but let him know today is all about his wants and desires. "What does he want to do, eat, see?" DeAlto says. "Make him feel like the center of your universe, which is really what flirting is all about."
Steal secret moments.
"Grab him for a kiss before he leaves, or steal glances across a crowded room," says DeAlto. "Stop planning and start living flirtatiously."
Remember, flirting doesn't come naturally to everyone. So if these suggestions feel forced to you, that's OK! "If you're not a natural flirt, watch those who are and observe how they tease people gently, use sarcasm lightly to bring a smile to someone's day," suggests Cooper. "Practice those techniques with friends until you feel more comfortable and then begin sprinkling them into conversations and texts with your main squeeze."