Should You Both Give Your Parents a Gift Before the Wedding?

Etiquette, Favors & Gifts

A wedding is no small expense — even when your parents are helping to foot the bill or plan the festivities. Honoring your family with a token of your appreciation is a thoughtful gesture, but what happens when your fiancé doesn't feel compelled to give his own gift of gratitude? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

Customarily, the bride's family pays the bill for a larger proportion of her wedding expenses, but nowadays, writing the checks have become a bit more complicated. Bestowing a small gift on the loved ones who financed your wedding is both a thoughtful gesture and an acknowledgement of the expenditure, but your new husband may feel he doesn't have to give the same attention to the his family. He may have a different relationship with his parents than you do with yours, and feel that a simple thank you is more than enough recognition of their presence at the wedding.

See more: 4 Times It's Okay to Say "No" to Your Parents While Wedding Planning

However, if your in-laws discover that they've been neglected, there may be some hard feelings. Balance the scales by inviting both sets of parents to an intimate dinner after the wedding festivities have concluded to celebrate the union of your families. Whether you select an upscale restaurant or choose to cook the meal at home, an experience which honors both sets of parents will serve as a bonding experience and a chance to begin your marriage on an inclusive note.

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