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Planning a wedding with divorced parents can feel more like a minefield than a time of joy. But what would a bride's nuptials be without all of her loved ones by her side? Our etiquette experts weigh in on how to include both divorced parents in the walk down the aisle — without causing any drama.
Despite your parents' divorce, your mom and dad can find common ground in wanting you to be happy. Your parents will be most likely to be peaceful on your wedding day if you gie them enough time to mentally and emotionally prepare for a tandem stroll down the aisle — you don't want to make the request comes as a surprise moments before the "Bridal March" begins to play. Try to schedule a sit-down with your parents to discuss your wishes in a non-confrontational environment. Be sure to underline how critical their presence is to your wedding day, and quell any inclination to show favoritism towards one parent over the other. Maintaining a positive tone and focusing on cooperation as opposed to hostility may mean the difference between a feud-laden wedding day and one that is filled with benevolence and tranquility.
However, you should be prepared for the possibility that your parents may not see eye to eye on the issue. Despite their dedication to your happiness, your parents may not be ready to put aside their differences in order to take part in your walk down the aisle together. The best way to handle the situation is to carefully state your opinion, respect whatever decision is reached, and hope that your parents are willing to come together for your special day.