Ask a Professional Bridesmaid: Is It Rude to Ask for a Plus-One?


Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates. For her column, Jen answers a fellow bridesmaid's burning question: Is it rude to ask for a plus-one?

Going to a wedding solo can be quite the drag, especially when you're one of the only single people occupying the dance floor. I've found myself standing alone, in the middle of the dance floor, tossing my arms in the air trying to catch the bouquet, while every other guest sat in their seat and pointed at me like I was the main act of the wedding show.

How badly did I wish I had a plus-one in that moment? Pretty bad.

It may be a bit much to call the bride up and giver her an ultimatum: either you get a plus-one or you're not going to attend the wedding.

But if the bride is a good friend of yours or even a close family member, you can give her a heads up that you'd like to bring someone, if you can. Ask her to her to keep you posted as RSVPs fly in and if there's room for one more guest, maybe that guest can belong to you.

If she says yes, remember, you're responsible for your guest so be sure to choose wisely! If she says no, remember, you have to respect her wishes. So don't invite someone anyway and cross your fingers that the bride won't notice one more person tip toeing around her wedding. She will ... she absolutely will.

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