Photo: Meredith Heuer
You've picked out your pearls and pumps — but what about the people who will watch you put them on? "A bride always has the right to decide who and how many people are getting ready with her on her wedding day," explains wedding planner Ashley Espinal, owner of Dulce Dream Events. "It's the most special moment in a woman's life, and the last thing she needs is someone else telling her who can be by her side."
While there are some changing room regulars — think the mother of the bride and her bridesmaids — a bride should feel free to mix up her morning guest list with whomever she feels comfortable asking to see her slip on her wedding dress. "Anyone from grandmothers to aunts, godmothers or cousins — anyone that has a special attachment to the bride — can be invited into the getting ready room," says Espinal.
Don't forget your family member's feelings, though. Often, it's those who've helped you get to this big day, through planning, support or advice, that expect an invite into the room. "Since the getting ready part of the day is such a special experience, you should expect that some integral family members will want to have that experience with the bride, too," Espinal explains.
Once you finalize your getting ready room guest list, it's a good idea to station someone at the door to manage who comes in. "If you don't have a day-of wedding planner who can do this, ask a close friend to come early to help," suggests Jesse Tombs, senior event producer for Alison Events. "And just be honest with yourself and your guests. If you want someone there, ask them and tell them it is important to you. If someone is not part of the wedding party or close family, they won't be offended if they're not included in this tradition."