Photo: Noah Hawthorne Photography
We're seeing it happen more and more: Mothers-of-the-bride being included in the bride's biggest-night-out bash. And that's great and all, but it undoubtedly adds another layer of complexity for those who are spearheading the special event. If that's you, these tips will help you wrap your head around what to do, while still pulling off a party your best bud will love.
1. Give the other partygoers a heads up.
Even if the bride is way close with her mama, you don't want to blindside the other guests upon their arrival. Some girls do mind the (generation) gap and there's really no reason not to give them fair warning. Everyone has different comfort levels; for example, a guest may instead prefer to wear her classic LBD around mom, instead of her "going out" dress.
2. Make the MOB feel special.
She might be all, "I'm a cool mom!" and adore spending time with her daughter's friends, but there's a good chance mom still feels a little bit out of place. So do something just for her, like adding a plastic "mother of the bride" flute to your cart when stocking up on decorations and penis straws.
3. Give her a meaningful task.
We suggest asking her to be in charge of some sort of yummy food, like bringing pre-party snacks or cooking brunch for the morning after. Don't give her a sucky project, like picking up out-of-town partygoers from the airport. (But if she volunteers, let her. Maybe she enjoys that kind of thing.)
4. Gracefully skirt the nerdy or just-plain-bad ideas.
The MOB may have a lot of false confidence in her party ideas, due to her intimate knowledge of her daughter. Like, if the bride loved Britney Spears when she was 10, well why not do a Britney Spears-themed slumber party? In these instances, say, "Fun suggestion, thank you! We will add it to the ideas list!" Then, when you move forward with other, better ideas, simply explain it was too hard to do everything and that this game plan was closest to what you felt the bride wanted most.
5. Cover all your bases.
And by that, we mean thinking about what mom may need so that she's happy and just hanging out comfortably like everyone else. Even if she's just another badass betch in your crew, a little courtesy can be key. Find chairs with backs, instead of bar stools, for example. Perhaps see if she wants some extra company, like another friend's mom coming along. Look out for her on the dance floor or other dark areas. Basically, treat her with the thoughtfulness she deserves. After all, she must be a pretty great mom if she scored an invite to the bachelorette bash, right?