5 Phrases a Groom Should Never Utter About Wedding Planning

Times It's OK to Tell Fiance to Back Off

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Sometimes, your guy swoops in with just the right words to sooth your stressed wedding-planning mind — other times, not so much. We're here to talk about five of those times you might encounter, and commiserate over why they're the last things you want to hear.

"How difficult can this be? You're basically just planning a party."
Your man may compare your wedding day to an oversized dinner party — the likes of which he's seen you effortlessly throw for the last three years. What he doesn't realize is that wrangling hundreds of people — and providing each one with seats, food, entertainment, favors and more — in a single, impeccably decorated space isn't quite as simple as hosting any ol' shindig in your apartment. Buy this man a "Wedding Planning For Dummies," stat!

"I'd rather spend our flower budget on beer."
That's about as likely to happen as winning the lottery — when you don't buy lotto tickets. While you've allocated enough funds to fill your bar and perhaps even create a signature cocktail, your guy can't expect you to let go of your centerpieces to stock more Stella Artois.

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"Just relax."
That helpful hint hadn't occurred to you, had it? A much better use of his time would be to offer up a foot massage as you spend your after-hours plotting a seating chart that won't make your wedding guests rebel.

"My mom wants to help plan our wedding."
Even if you've escaped the horror of having a monster-in-law, it's unlikely you want your guy's mom weighing in on anything for which she isn't — very graciously! — paying. You want chances to bond with your mother-in-law, not opportunities to butt heads over your big day.

"Whatever you want."
Your opinion wasn't what you were looking for when you asked your husband-to-be for his own. While he can't be expected to care quite as much about, say, flowers as you do, asking him to weigh in on the menu and music is totally reasonable — and so is expecting a thoughtful answer!

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