Your Pressing Bachelorette Party Questions, Answered

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When I think of bachelorette parties, I think of strippers in leopard print thongs and hangovers that make us realize that we're no longer college freshmen. I think of empty shot glasses and late nights on the dance floors. While all bachelorette parties are different — these days, some are much more low key, like day drinking at a winery or a weekend at the beach — there are still some important questions that you should know the answers to before heading out to celebrate the bride's last hoorah!

1. Do I need to bring a gift?
This is one of the touch points in the wedding adventure where it's appropriate to bring the bride a fun gift. A set of lacey pajamas or lingerie. Even a gag gift or inside joke gift that'll make her laugh and keep the overall feel of the night light and fun.

2. Who pays for this thing?
It's common that the whole bridal party and anyone else invited to the bachelorette party will cover the expenses. That's why it's important to have a conversation with the MOH before she starts planning the bachelorette party about how much you can spend on this event.

See more: Non-Vegas Bachelorette Party Ideas

3. Do I have to drink and get wild?
Not at all! If the night has a bunch of activities, like dinner, karaoke and a strip club, you can pick and choose the events you want to go to based on what you're comfortable with.

4. What happens if the bride gets too rowdy?
Be sure to have a bottle of Advil and a tall glass of water on hand. She may need you to help nurse her hangover the next morning, so make sure you're around to help her through that!

5. Do I have to go?
You don't and, if you live out of state, you may not be able to afford to go. But, if you can't make it to the official bachelorette party, be sure to offer to take the bride out for a night on the town another night. Either way, be sure to spend a night with her celebrating an occasion of a lifetime.

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

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