Is It Weird to Not Have a Ring Bearer?

Etiquette, Kids

The bridal party is an essential part of any bride's big day, from doting bridesmaids to darling flower girls. But what happens when you have a plethora of nieces to nominate but no nephews to appoint as ring bearers? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

In this situation, utilizing the term “Your day, your way” as your mantra is absolutely acceptable. If you have no nephews and no desire for a ring bearer, by all means simply stay with your two flower girls. As long as your rings somehow make the trip down the aisle and onto your finger, there is no need for a ring bearer. If you choose to go without a traditional ring bearer, the maid of honor and best man are customarily the designated wedding bands caretakers.

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However, you do have several alternative options if you adore the idea of a ring bearer but find yourself without suitable candidates. First, look to close family friends who might be willing to volunteer their tots for ring bearer duty, and remember, the job works for both genders. If you can't find an adolescent who is up to the task, try a quirky alternative such as dubbing your dog the ring bearer. Your guests will likely find the gesture refreshing and endearing, and as an added bonus, your canine companion will be with you to have and hold on your big day.

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