What to Do When Your Wedding Party Doesn't Get Along


You pictured your wedding party getting along like bees and honey, but these men and women are engaging more like cats and dogs. "Disagreements in any situation are fairly common, especially when it involves such an important life changing event such as a wedding," says wedding planner Ashley Espinal, owner of Dulce Dream Events.

Nip any fighting — we've even laid out some common scenarios for you! — in the bud with these expert tips.

One of your bridesmaids used to date a groomsman, and it didn't end well.
"You and your fiancé should speak with both the bridesmaid and groomsman and find ways where they both feel comfortable participating in wedding-related activities," says Espinal. "At the end of the day, they both need to attend the wedding, so they should feel comfortable at least knowing the other person is around. If not, the couple will seriously have to reevaluate whether or not they can have both of them part of the celebration."

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Several of your wedding party finds a particular member particularly annoying.
"Secrets don't make friends, but they sure keep the negative comments away!" Espinal says. "If this particularly 'annoying' friend is very important to you, the wedding party should be able to respect that. If it's incredibly difficult to do, why not try and see what it is exactly that is so frustrating to deal with and see how you can work around that?" Worst case scenario, you should "establish some boundaries so this person is included in wedding related activities but is not fully immersed in each event."

One member keeps trying to steal the spotlight from the other members of the wedding party.
It's time for another talk. "Everyone in the wedding party is trying to play a part in the celebration, so everyone deserves equal spotlight," says Espinal. "If several members of the wedding party feel that one person is getting better 'treatment,' it's time to have a talk with that member and with everyone else and let them know that is not the case and try to remedy it."

A few members show up late and do other things that inconvenience the rest of the wedding party.
"This is particularly frustrating for not just the wedding party but for the couple themselves," says Espinal. "Letting these few people know that they are not only disrespecting the wedding party but the couple themselves is the key to making them aware of the situation. If they don't understand or simply don't care, maybe being part of an event as important as a wedding just isn't their thing and it's time to find new people!"

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