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Let's talk about sex, baby. Actually, let's talk about you talking about it with your significant other. Because just like discussing finances and your future, talking about sex is uber-important to the success of your relationship.
"If a couple doesn't discuss sex early on in the relationship, the stakes will only get higher for him or her to talk about sex later on," says clinical sexologist Dr. Patti Britton. "Everyone deserves to be fulfilled and known for who they truly are — even in bed. Not talking openly and frankly about a sexual issue or desire can bury it, only to raise it down the road at a more intense level. As the old adage goes, 'what you resist, persists.'"
So as soon as you're comfortable, tackle the topic of what you like between sheets with these five all-important questions:
1. "What do you like sexually?"
If you're brave, ask for a demonstration!
2. "Can I tell you what I like sexually?"
Be sure to include what you know you like, and what you'd like to try.
3. "What do you expect from sex in our relationship?"
In other words, how often do you want sex? What kind of sex would you like to have?
4. "What is and isn't okay in our sex life?"
Mid-act isn't the time to surprise someone with a bondage fantasy, after all.
5. "What meaning do we want sex to give our relationship?"
Are you searching for a deep connection, maximum pleasure, fun, or some combination of all the above?